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Slowing Down The Stress

Stressful Times

Hello lovely friends! What a stressful couple of weeks it’s been, so hectic that I’ve barely had time at all for any (much needed) slow sewing. If you’ve had teenagers going through exams I’m sure you’ll understand! Kim has got so far behind with his AS level assignments (due to illness earlier on in his course), that the closer his deadlines loom the closer my blood pressure is to exploding. He, of course, is so laid back and leaving everything to the very last minute hoping mum (aka The Biggest Nag on the Planet!) will help him pick up the pieces. There’ve been at least two 4am finishes this past week alone. I’m a zombie. And there’s more to come: he’s just been given another week’s extension, aargh!

Sheep and lambs in a rainy lane near Truro, Cornwall. Photograph © Kim Gentle-Boon 2016. www.DawnChorusStudio.com

One of Kim’s photos taken a couple of months ago.

The thing is, if he hands in his assignments ‘as is’, he’ll get a pass, but his tutors say he’s ‘very talented’ (especially in photography) and if he can get it together (in time) he’ll get a much higher grade. Every mother wants their child to reach their potential – even if they don’t seem bothered! So, what are you supposed to do?  How many of us wonder when their child will take responsibility for their own actions; how do you know when to step back and let them get on with it, no matter the consequences? Kim is just 18 – going on 14. I gather it’s a common issue with teenage boys! It goes without saying I love him to bits, but boy this parenting business is ruddy hard work at times. If you think a toddler’s behaviour is a nightmare to deal with, brace yourself!

Refresh and Rejuvenate

When I’m this stressed I need to get out; over the years I’ve learnt that vigorous exercise is the only way to get it out of my system. And this week proved to be the most wonderful time to escape the house. Along with the glorious sunshine has come some spring warmth and an abundance of rejuvenating colour. I’ve walked and I’ve cycled and every time I’ve been out I’ve seen something that’s stopped me in my tracks.

A photo posted by Stephanie Boon (@dawnchorusstudio) on

A photo posted by Stephanie Boon (@dawnchorusstudio) on

A photo posted by Stephanie Boon (@dawnchorusstudio) on

A photo posted by Stephanie Boon (@dawnchorusstudio) on

I’m so lucky to live where I do, I can’t imagine how I’d centre myself in a big city. I’m a country girl all the way through, despite (or because of) growing up in London (lots of open spaces there then though, that aren’t there now).

So, Onto Sewing!

I’ve managed to spend an hour or two stitching in the evenings, which is the perfect way to wind down, as I’m sure you all know! I’ve managed a few more Quilty365 circles, a little bit of hand quilting in the borders of Summer Blues and the odd bit of hand piecing half square triangles too.

Hand quilting a flying geese patchwork border. © Stephanie Boon, 2016 www.DawnChorusStudio.om

Summer Blues border

Hand pieced patchwork pinwheel blocks. © Stephanie Boon, 2016 www.DawnChorusStudio.com

Pinwheel Block (repeated three times!)

I’m planning on updating my tutorial for hand piecing half square triangles – it seriously needs some much better photographs. It seemed like a good little project to work on when I could grab a moment in the evenings. I love the way these blocks have turned out, what do you think? The large floral is an Anna Maria Horner fabric, but I don’t have a clue where the little rose print is from – it was just something from the scrap box. I’m going to have to make something with these blocks, they’re too pretty to leave languishing, but there aren’t many of them, so, something small; what would you make?

I hope you’ve all had a good couple of weeks and your projects have been moving on as you’d hope. I’m aiming to try and catch up with everyone over the next week, but just in case I don’t make it you’ll know why! And if I don’t, there’s only one more week of stress to go and then I’ll be back to ‘normal’!

Happy Slow Sunday Stitching!

Signature: Stephie © Stephanie Boon, 2015 www.DawnchorusStudio.com

11 replies
  1. Valerie Reynolds
    Valerie Reynolds says:

    THAT is how I manage stress too. 18 is old enough for him to learn from his mistakes…hang in there. We raised two girls who were 15 months apart. UGH!! One is 24 still acting like a rebellious 16 year old. The other is 25, married and doing great. I continue to have faith in how we raised them…but know that in the end they are in God’s hands.

  2. daneesey
    daneesey says:

    Boys will be boys, right? I agree, it (they) can be incredibly frustrating. My son is/was a LOT like your son, and I always found–in my desire to want what was best for my boy–that there’s an incredibly fine line between pushing him to his best, and actually being the one manipulated into doing it. Ugh! My girl was self-motivated and needed nothing from me, which has its own heartbreak!! Glad you are able to get in some therapeutic stitching!! 🙂

  3. Quilter Kathy
    Quilter Kathy says:

    I know exactly how that goes! You will be amazed how much your son changes between 18 and 21!
    It’s a constant learning and relearning process for moms and kids of how much to move in or lean back.
    I vote for natural and logical consequences for their choices as much as possible (which is usually as
    much as I can tolerate at any given time!)
    Stitching is the only constant relaxation 🙂
    Good luck to you both 🙂

  4. Deb
    Deb says:

    Sounds like you son gets his photography talent from you! Beautiful shots you captured. Your HST’s would make a very darling little wall hanging with some open squares with nice hand quilting in there. Good luck this week…. so nice when the end is in sight.

  5. Sophie
    Sophie says:

    Gorgeous nature shots ! At this time of the year I’m always stressed about school … My eldest son is a “minimalist” and optimist who works just what is needed to continue the course. The youngest is a dreamer and have now some learning issues. So I know what you’re going through. Hopefully nature and stitching are good distractions 😉

  6. Bossymamma
    Bossymamma says:

    Your need to support and help him is completely understandable given what you’ve both been through but try not to overdo it. He really doesn’t have to achieve the top grade in these exams.

  7. Lynne Nicholson
    Lynne Nicholson says:

    My eldest (now 31) still doesn’t take responsibility, and blames me if he’s spent all his money and hasn’t got enough food in, or anything else that goes wrong.
    My youngest (29) son if he runs out of money accepts its his fault.
    My daughter (30) budgets we and reigns in her partner if he spends too much. I’m tempted to get her to sort my money out.
    Hang in there. I’d say tell your son it’s his responsibility to sort himself out but I remember how much I worried when they were that age.

  8. Monica
    Monica says:

    So, my dad is 91, and if my mom tells him it’s cold outside and to wear a coat, he will go out without a coat on.

    The more pressure you apply, the more your son will feel the need to compensate. I would slowly back off, because a sudden vacuum is bad too. Let your son know that he can ask for help at any time, but otherwise try to leave him alone. He has to find what makes him happy, not what makes you happy.

  9. Kaja
    Kaja says:

    Some good advice in the comments above, though it’s always easier to be wise after the event. I would say, as long as he passes, and gets whatever he needs to qualify for the next step, it won’t matter in the long run.


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